Good sex is a pleasing adventure that brings connection, intimacy, pleasure and closeness between two or more consenting people. Having a fantastic, fun, safe and pleasurable sex life is all about communication. Sexual Communication is when you and your partner can share your needs and desires without the conversation being awkward, taking into account what the other feels. It is a fulfilling, satisfying, and fun part of life!
Talking about sex allows you and your partners to connect and learn about each other. Sexual communication will make it more sensual for you to take pleasure in sex safely and have a pleasurable sex life.
The importance of communication during SEX!
1. Make sure to appreciate their actions to boost their drive
Communication is not linked with words only. Sometimes, a gentle hand placed on your partner’s shoulder or back, a simple glance at you, or even a wink is enough to lure someone towards you. Opening up more communication channels helps align your verbal cues with your physical ones. So, express your feelings about Sex with your partner and make it more happening! Tell them how you feel when you have sex, try to express your emotions.
2. Engage in dirty talking and explore your fantasies
If sweet sugary things can bring you never-ending moments of pleasure, what’s the harm in being even more thoughtful and looking for what excites your partner.
These talks need a slight sexual imagination as an added advantage, as it will lead your partner to perform better each time you have sex or get intimate.
You might say:
- “I just woke up from a sexy dream about us. Can I tell you about it?”
- “I’m going to crawl into bed and pleasure myself. Do you have any interest in dirty talking with me while I do?”
- “I can’t stop thinking about you?”
- “Sometimes, during sex, I have quite the dirty mouth. Before we keep going, I want to see how you feel about that. Do you enjoy dirty talking during sex?”
- “I can’t wait to be inside you.”
The start of a conversation is also an excellent time to exchange any no-fly trigger words.
So, you can talk about your secret fantasies, which helps you understand them better and makes them less fearful and more accurate. It will open the gates of the Pro Lovemaking Game!
3. Compliment your lover’s private parts
Men and women both love being straightforward. It’s a fact that they like frank partners in bed, so communicating through your body language with your partner can be a huge turn-on, and they would undoubtedly love to hear it.
4. Communicate your feelings through body language
Men and women both love being straightforward. It’s a fact that they like frank partners in bed, so communicating through your body language with your partner can be a huge turn-on, and they would undoubtedly love to hear it.
5. Say ‘Yes’ to what you want
Both partners enjoy SEX, so it is very important to let the person know whatever you want. If you feel the position is giving you all the pleasure, then ask your partner to continue it. You can talk about the past experience, which was fun, and ask the partner to perform again.
6. Strength Your Overall Bond and Relationship
Communication is a vital part of being vulnerable, and it allows you to explore yourself. Talking over your trials help you understand what it is about being hog-tied and whipped that turns you on. And understanding your desires makes your partner more true-to-life, honest, and open.
7. It’s never too late to say NO
Say directly no to what you don’t like. Communication isn’t a one-time deal, and it is a continuous process, a constant conversation. Your partner should know what not makes you happy. Because this lead to a pleasing SEX.
8. Play Music During Sex
You might be wondering, why we telling to play music, but you guyz it is important. Playing your favoured sexy tunes during sex can aid the communication flow more freely. It can be intimidating shattering the silence to say something, so having a little background music can be helpful. The music playing in the background can be a conversation starter!
For example:
- Oh, this music turns me on!
- This music drives me hard yaar.
Final thoughts
Communication in any relationship is important for creating a solid bond between a couple, and a part of that communication is expressing your desires and fantasies.
Physical attachment is an integral part of a relationship, and communicating with your partner benefits you to have a pleasing session. Whether you want to bring up the frequency of your sex, sexual fantasies, safer sex, or just ask your partner if they like your sex life, either way, it can feel extremely daunting. But it is possible to have a productive and positive chat about sex with a partner without hurting their feelings.
You may initially find your communication technique awkward or clunky. Because of this, always ask questions, get feedback, learn about each other’s narratives, desires and cue into non-verbal communication.
In addition to better communication, practice will boost your skills and ease future sex communication, sexual satisfaction, health, and connection.